Break the silence of pregnancy and infant loss

Experiencing the loss of a baby causes great emotion, emotion that you may of never felt before all at the same time. Great fear, great hurt, great confusion, great sadness, and great disbelief. For the most part, these feelings are felt in silence because the loss of a baby is a very sensitive subject, one that many people will never talk about. Maybe people are afraid of saying the wrong thing. Maybe fear holds them back from speaking up.  Fear of saying something that will remind the grieving parents of the baby but for many of us, the fact that no one speaks of the loss hurts greater than saying the “wrong thing.”

Scripture reminds me in the book of James 4:8-10:

Come near to God and He will come near to you.

Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.

Grieve, mourn, and wail.

Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom.

Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.

God was my constant in the days leading up to my miscarriage. He was near to me, His Spirit gave me strength and His Word was a lifeline. I read and read the Word searching for a message to soothe the ache that was growing inside me as I waited. I listened to many praise and worship songs by my favorite artist. “Though You Slay Me” by Shane and Shane was on repeat. A sweet friend who has also lost a baby shared it with me and it greatly encouraged my heart.

Though You ruin me
Still I will worship
Sing a song to the one who’s all I need
 I encourage you to not suffer in silence if you are also the 1 in 4 women who have experienced a pregnancy or infant loss. Speak up and speak out! Speak to those who are suffering. The silence is the loudest when it hurts the most.

Father, Thank you for your love, for your Word, and for your constant presence! Thank you for your promises that remind us that all things work together for the good of those who love you! In Jesus name, I pray. Amen!

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